Living better through quitting
Don’t take the title of this article the wrong way. I am not suggesting that you quit going to therapy. If you are seeing a therapist, such as a doctor of psychology, that is a good thing. That is not what I mean by quit therapy. I am proposing a better way to live your life, by quitting as many things as possible that reduce your happiness.
A new kind of therapy
What I am proposing is a form of therapy or coaching to help people to persistently and relentlessly quit activities in their lives that are causing harm. It would be called Quit Therapy. But, you do not have to wait for a therapist to list Quit Therapy in their credentials. You can get started right away.
What do you need to quit?
There are a few obvious items that come to mind. For example, you should quit drugs, alcohol, smoking, gambling, eating processed foods, excess sugar and carbs, crossing the street where there is no crosswalk and many other dangerous activities. Some of these harmful things are harder to quit than others. Take quitting drugs for example, medical detox can make your transition off of drugs much easier.
Waking up to your world.
Beyond those obvious vices, there is a whole world of activities that get in the way of your happiness. Imagine how you would feel if you could, for example, quit your job right now? You may love your job, but if you don’t, how long do you plan on continuing? Or, is it the traffic to get to and from the job? What if you could quit driving in traffic? There are even more subtle things to be aware of. What about quitting television? Facebook? Using a smart phone? What if you could quit talking to anyone who does not inspire you to accomplish your goals that take you towards freedom and happiness?
How do you quit your job?
I don’t want you to quit your job today. But, if you feel like your job is slowly eating away at your life and is not at all a rewarding experience, you should start planning now. Can you quit in one year? Three years? What about five years? If five years seems like a long time to you, it is not. No matter how old you are, if you are still working and you feel young and active today, you will still be young and active in five years. But, if you don’t do the planning and take daily steps, you will still be at that miserable job five years from now.
One day at a time.
To be successful, you need a plan. Each day, work with your roadmap and your life theme. Work towards your freedom. Maybe you need to reduce expenses in your life and pay off debts. And, most importantly, start working on the next phase of your life. Do you have a marketable skill? Could you earn money doing something that does not require employment? Or, maybe there is another job that you would love. What will it take to get to that point? Education? Connections? Start planning now for the next stage of your life.
Could you live in a less expensive, smaller home? Would it be possible to pay off your mortgage? How about a less expensive car that does not require monthly payments? If these things do not appeal to you, remember the daily torture of the traffic and the hours of unsatisfying work. Hence, you must keep your eye on your goal and remember the value of your freedom and happiness.
Why is quitting your job so important?
It might not even be your job that we should be talking about. It could be a toxic relationship. A bad marriage or other relationship could be a huge persistent source of stress for you. Maybe getting out is not practical today or tomorrow, but, you can start your planning right away. The reason it is important to quit the bad and replace it with good is for your future happiness. And, if you are, like many of my patients, trying to stay clean from drugs or sober from alcohol, your life may depend on quitting the things that make you unhappy.
Saving your life with Quit Therapy.
For many people, quitting a job and starting a small business can lead to a future of freedom and happiness. Yet, for some, it can be life saving. If you are just getting clean from drugs, consider the things that trigger you to start drugs again every time. Is it a relationship? Your work? Is there some activity that might seem harmless, but sets you up to lead to a chain of events that ends in drug use?
How do you know if it is the right thing to quit your job?
Making big, life altering decisions is not an easy thing for anyone. How do you know if you are doing the right thing and making the right plans? Writing it all down on paper can help. When you read your own words back to yourself, you may have an awakening and realize that you must make plans to quit some big things in your life to truly be happy. I recommend working with a therapist. Look up a doctor of psychology in your area and tell them that you are interested in Quit Therapy. They will likely ask you what you mean by that. Explain that you need guidance in exploring your self and your life to find out what you must quit for your freedom, peace of mind and happiness.